Kathleen Dehmlow will not be missed by her two kids. Picture: Redwood Falls Gazette
Kathleen Dehmlow will not be missed by her two kids. Picture: Redwood Falls Gazette

Son explains ‘revenge’ obituary

THE son who wrote a harsh obituary about his late mother has spoken out about why he and his sister decided to reveal why they felt "this world is a much better place without" Kathleen Dehmlow.

Jay Dehmalo, 58, told the Daily Mail that his mother, who died last week at the age of 80, prompted a dysfunctional childhood for him, and his sister, Gina, after she became pregnant by her brother-in-law.

"We wanted to finally get the last word," Dehmalo said. "You could write it all down in a book or turn it into a movie and people wouldn't believe what we went through."

The siblings wrote that Dehmlow "abandoned" them in 1962 as she became pregnant and moved to California. Dehmlow's parents then raised Dehmalo and his sister, reports Fox News.

"She passed away on May 31, 2018 in Springfield and will now face judgment," the now-removed obituary read. "She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her."

Dehmlow's sister, Judy, described the obituary to the Daily Mail as "nasty," and said it had "hurt the family tremendously" before questioning why people are discussing it because "it's not important."

 

Jay Dehmalo said his mum “abandoned” him. Picture: Facebook
Jay Dehmalo said his mum “abandoned” him. Picture: Facebook

 

Kathleen Dehmlow was slammed by her children. Picture: Redwood Falls Gazette
Kathleen Dehmlow was slammed by her children. Picture: Redwood Falls Gazette

 

"Not important?" Dehmalo said to the Daily Mail. "Sure. They have no idea what we went through and back then, in the '50s and '60s, nobody talked about anything."

The 58-year-old said he and his sister had to piece together information about their family and mother throughout their lives, claiming the two didn't know they had half-brothers until years after they were born.

Kathleen Dehmlow’s children didn’t hold back in their disdain for her. Picture: Redwood Falls Gazette
Kathleen Dehmlow’s children didn’t hold back in their disdain for her. Picture: Redwood Falls Gazette

The rare instances Dehmalo recalls her taking a break from "having a great life in California with her other kids" and visiting them, the two "didn't have so much as a card from her. I remember she came home twice and on one occasion she was showing pictures of her and her kids playing cards, drinking beers".

The Dehmlows’ grandparents took the siblings in after their mother became pregnant by her husband Dennis’s younger brother, Lyle. Picture: Findagrave.com
The Dehmlows’ grandparents took the siblings in after their mother became pregnant by her husband Dennis’s younger brother, Lyle. Picture: Findagrave.com

"Gina and I were standing in the room, just standing there and she didn't even acknowledge us," he said. "It's like we didn't exist."

The "revenge obituary" was pulled from the Redwood Falls Gazette and removed from Legacy.com.

 

This story was originally published by Fox News and is reprinted with permission.


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