‘I found his graphic emails’
THREE years into her relationship, Blair was engaged to the man of her dreams when she found out a dirty secret he had kept hidden from her.
"I always thought there was something he wasn't telling me and I gave him ample opportunity to tell me," she told news.com.au.
For years, she put her suspicions in the back of her mind. But one day, she couldn't ignore them any longer. So she checked her fiance's emails on his desktop computer when he wasn't home.
"There were these graphic emails between him and his ex-girlfriend [that started] around the time we [got] together," she said.
The long string of email exchanges - which included the locations of each affair and detailed the romps that played out - indicated the cheating occurred on an almost weekly basis for the first 10 months of Blair's relationship. A relationship she thought was rock solid and monogamous.
Three years into the relationship and engaged to this man, Blair didn't know what to do.
"I was shaking. I was livid," she said of the discovery. "I was devastated. It broke me completely. I'd never felt such heartbreak in my life. I didn't know what to do with myself. I couldn't function. We were engaged and living together at that point."
She thought about walking away. But despite her anger and despair, the 31-year-old decided to stay and marry the man she once trusted. She also got a tattoo to celebrate the union: "Wifey for lifey" - a reference to her married status as well as a slogan she has printed on a line of T-shirts.
"I was madly in love with him ... I had built this beautiful relationship with him and I decided to stay with him because of that reason," Blair said. "But I always felt like there was always this disdain for him and I just couldn't get over it. I didn't trust him enough to have a family with him so I ended it."
Blair split from her husband after almost two years. During her marriage, she said she never checked his emails or texts.
To celebrate her divorce papers being signed, the blonde Sydney local made an amendment to the tattoo, which now reads: "Burgers for lifey".
The executive assistant has turned to controversial Channel Nine reality dating show Married At First Sight in an attempt to find love again.
"I was having sort of like a down moment between guys and I thought, why not? I've given everything else a go," she said.
She added: "I know what I do want and I know what I don't want. Coming into the experiment ... it's just what felt right. Gut instincts. If there's a spark with someone, that's what I look for. Looks for me [are] not important."
The show has a history of casting a mix of likeable, emotional and often controversial contestants that attract strong viewer opinion and frequent backlash. Some contestants on the series, which premieres on Monday, January 29, have already drew the ire of fans.
A series promo hit TV screens in December showing groom Dean reciting a "sexist" wishlist for his desired bride.
"I like a girl that is a girl and is girlie and knows that I'm the man and that I'm in charge," he said in the clip which riled viewers.
"Also I want someone that listens to me and I want to be the alpha male and she needs to respect me as the man. I think that's a traditional role that exits in other countries in the world, and Australia's lost that."
He added: "A lot of guys are just afraid to be men now, and are getting whipped by their women. I don't agree with that, and I don't know why it's happened."
Married At First Sight premieres Monday, January 29