AFL star's partner breaks down in tears over split
Amie Rohan has spoken with incredible bravery about her heartbreaking private life and split from husband and Geelong star Gary Rohan.
Rohan and the popular Instagram influencer are reported to have separated when the Cats speedster was forced to leave Victoria with his teammates in July when the NSW border was about to shut.
Amie was a notable absentee when many of the club's partners and children joined the players inside their Gold Coast isolation hub in August. She stayed behind on the Bellarine Coast near Geelong with daughters Bella and 11-month-old Sadie Rose.
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With the high-profile split being played out in the public eye, it was revealed last month Rohan had started a new relationship with a physiotherapist at the football club. The employee has since left the club as a result of the completion of an employment contract. It is rumoured that the new relationship led to friction between Rohan and teammate Tom Hawkins, who reportedly confronted Rohan about his behaviour inside the AFL's COVID-19 bubble.
The marriage breakdown is just one part of Amie's heartbreaking story.
She has now spoken publicly for the first time about the traumatic period of her life that left her spiralling into a "deep depression".
The couple in 2018 shared the shattering journey of their first pregnancy with twins - Bella Ray and Willow Nevaeh - including the discovery just 11 weeks in that Willow would not survive childbirth.
The twins were born on April 12, 2018, but Willow - who suffered from a fatal neural tube defect with no cure known as anencephaly - passed away after five hours.
Amie's recounting of the precious five hours she had with Willow is truly gut-wrenching.
She has now told the Women of Influence with Kate Meade Podcast how she put her life back together after being overcome with unimaginable grief.
She has been in a constant wrestle with PTSD, post natal anxiety and post natal depression since the passing of Willow.
Her journey crashed onto the rocks again last year after the breakdown of her marriage.
It does not define her, however, and her brave journey has resulted in her Instagram profile being followed by more than 40,000 people.
In one of many emotional moments on the podcast, she was asked about the state of her relationship with her former partner. She could be heard snuffling away tears at the end of her response.
"I'd rather not comment if that's OK," she said.
Earlier in the podcast she said of the relationship: "The initial feud part was really hard. I had no idea how I was going to do it. I basically had the lowest days of my life, I probably fell into a deep depression and I lent on those close to me.
"I let out everything I was feeling but I think when you have so much emotional attachment and stories you just don't ever want to go through it."
Through regular counselling, support groups, journaling and the help of close friends she is moving on into the next chapter of her life.
INCREDIBLE TRAUMA OF LOSING DAUGHTER WILLOW
There are few interviews in 2021 that will be as heartbreaking or as inspirational as hearing Amie speak about the five hours she had with daughter Willow.
She has now given incredible details about the ordeal - that have stayed private until now.
Amie said the family shared a special moment inside the Royal Women's Hospital when her parents and Gary's parents both had opportunities to say goodbye to the twin of Bella before she passed away.
"I held onto Willow, she held my little finger," she said of the moment she was taken to a private room while Bella was transported to the neonatal intensive care unit.
"And they took us up into a special room and we got some more photos and stuff taken and Bella came back with us. And then Bella had to go down into the NICU so she got separated from me (cries).
"And we took Willow upstairs to our room and we just had cuddles and time with her and I was just holding her. And I was like, 'Oh my goodness Gary. You haven't held her enough. What if she passes away in my arms? You haven't held her enough'.
"So I gave her to him and then I started taking photos of him holding her. And then I was like what if we don't have enough photos of you two together. What if we have too many of me with her. I was just in such a state of worry. I just didn't want her to go (cries)."
She said she could tell Willow's condition had deteriorated when a family member had been holding her.
"I could just tell she'd lost (her breathing)," she said.
"The nurse came in and I just asked, 'Can you just check her heartbeat'. And she said she's passed. It was like she knew we had our support systems there (cries)."
Having carried the grief with her ever since, Amie says it wasn't until last year that she was finally able to get to a place where she could live with it.
"It wasn't probably until what happened in my personal life last year that I really got on top of the post natal anxiety because that came out in leaps and bounds," she says.
"I said it's not my job, you've got to do what makes you happy but it kind of took me a lot by surprise," she says.
"It was talked about on and off but I wasn't ready really to do it then, but then at the same time I was like I can't make decisions about your career for you so I'll put it in your hands.
"It brought a lot of challenges with it as well because you're sort of split in so many different directions and everyone wants a piece of you and I was still grieving, we were still grieving.
"The first year was really hard and I'm so glad I put my hand up (for help) when I did. "You're never going to heal from what we went through 100 per cent, but you can constantly make the effort to work through it and that's why I put my hand up and got help."
Amie is now excited about the next chapter in her life and says she will soon be able to announce a behind the scenes project surrounding "kids and dance".
Originally published as AFL wife breaks down in tears over split